Friday, July 13, 2012

The big 3-oh

 Dear John,

Happy 30th birthday, love! I thought I'd write you a quick (and public) letter to commemorate your 30th birthday. And to also let you know how much I love you. So bookmark this for those days when I snap at you at 4:30 in the morning after being up all night.

You are the best parenting partner I could ask for. When I'm having a rough day, you let me call you, say lots of angry things about life and then hang up. While I know I feel better afterward, I know it is probably uncomfortable for you, and yet you always pick up my calls. When I'm over analyzing parenting decisions, I know that I can turn to you and you will join me in my over-analyzation. Or you'll calm me down by telling me that just because I let Johnny watch Toy Story 3 for an hour doesn't mean he will turn into a serial killer later in life.

You are an incredibly thoughtful husband. You are constantly putting me first and thinking about how the things you do and say will affect me, even though that's not something I usually do for you. You bring me flowers for no reason. You won't hesitate to order pizza or pick up food on the way home when you know I'm stressed out or just too exhausted to even think about making food. And you never complain about it.

You give me more credit than I am due. Yes, this stay at home mom gig is tough, but you always tell me how much you appreciate me doing it and constantly talk about what a great job I'm doing. In a job that doesn't have evaluations or report cards to tell you how you are doing, that feedback helps more than you know.

You are my best friend, without a doubt. I can tell you anything and everything and never have to think twice about whether I should tell you or not.

With all of the things you do for me, I wish I was better about doing some things for you.
  • I wish I told you more often what a phenomenal provider you are, in all things. Not only working for a living, but providing love and attention for our boys, putting forth the effort to keep up our house and prioritizing those obnoxious little things I want you to do even if you just want to sit down and relax for a second.
  • I wish I was better about doing things for you without you having to ask. 
  • I wish I was better about leaving our kids with someone else so we can have more one-on-one time. I know we'll have more time together as the kids get older, but it's pretty brutal right now having only a few minutes in the evening to recap our days and reconnect.
I love you, John! I'm looking forward to hanging out with you for the next 30 years. :) Happy 30th birthday!

Your wife


  1. Six years ago I could have never dreampt of a better wife than you; I love you Kelly!